the psychology
HOW TO DO IT?
I became convinced that the best way to give yourself into complete and undivided possession of your child is to set certain hours that you will spend alone with him. You may have thought about how difficult it is. And it is really difficult. To find time to be alone with a teenager, disconnecting from all worries – this I consider the most difficult of parental responsibilities. She cannot be ignored – it takes a long time to be a good parent.
However, finding free time in our hyperdynamic age is also not easy because a teenager has many other interests that parents have to compete with. All this only confirms the fact that the undivided attention of parents is extremely necessary for adolescents, especially given the bad influence from the outside, which today is stronger than ever. Continue reading
CHANGE ROLE
Now quite often what is called a role change occurs when parents expect the child to fill their emotional vacuum, lack of sincere cordial communication. Although this can happen in any family, it is most often found in single-parent families.
Some single parents establish relationships with their teens similar to trusting relationships between friends or colleagues. This is because they have no one to share their adult problems with.
Due to loneliness, dissatisfaction, depression or other problems, single parents sometimes simply can not treat their teens as peers. They want to entrust their children with personal problems that they are not yet ready to comprehend. Such parents strive to become “best friends” of their children, instead of establishing normal relationships for them. Continue reading
INCOMPLETE FAMILIES
In a survey conducted in America in 1989, it turned out that 26% of children under the age of 18 live with one parent. And this figure is growing rapidly. More than 50% of newborns will spend at least part of their childhood in a single-parent family.
Today, many are convinced that a mother or father alone cannot raise a child as successfully as a complete family can. David Clevenger’s article “Parenting in the ’90s,” published in September 1992 in the journal Facets of the American Medical Society, proves the opposite. According to Clevenger, decades of research show that “nothing prevents a single parent from being a good parent. Continue reading