How to turn a teenager into a man
It was 1993. At that time I was renting a 2-room apartment in which we lived with my youngest son, Ilya, who was twelve years old. The eldest son studied…

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THE ROLE OF UNDERSTANDING IN THE FAMILY
These cases from my practice show that unregulated relationships between spouses cause problems in adolescents. Every teenager needs parents whose marriage is reliable, full of mutual respect and love. And…

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3.5 years: communication skill
Starting from 3.5 years for a harmonious development, a child just needs contacts not only with adults, but also with peers. It is in interaction with other children that the…

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Sex (teenager)

Life examples
Porn
Early sexual relationship
Talking with a child about sex
Masturbation

My son (he is 9 years old) periodically masturbates. And when I suddenly go into the room and notice this, I don’t know how to behave properly, what should I do and say in such cases?

Solution
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Teen asks for money from parents

In a good family, teenagers have no money problems. It’s normal to sit down at dinner and consult together on how to resolve this issue. A son or daughter tells how much and what they want, in the family circle everyone thinks what is relevant and what is not, then parents give money for really necessary purchases, and for the fact that adolescents just want it, they earn money themselves.
If you want a camera with good optics – excellent, but you need to earn money for it yourself. However, in a good family here parents can help and suggest where and how a teenager is better to earn extra money.

In many families, so that there is no constant negotiations, these money issues are resolved systematically: a deal is thought out and created. For example, this: “We have an agreement about spending (for fashionistas – it concerns mainly clothes!). What I need for life – for example, the first pair of winter boots – is bought by me without further discussion. That which is not a matter of prime necessity – the fifth pair of summer boots – if you “really, really want it, then it’s given for your birthday! And what you want, but not really, then it’s bought equally for all family members when finances allow.” Continue reading

A teenager wants to leave home. Parent Tips

The situation is not simple. On the one hand, something needs to be done right away, to change things as quickly as possible. On the other – are there any opportunities for this? Do parents have leverage over their child, are they ready to use their power? It happens that parents have levers of influence, but due to various circumstances they do not dare to use them, they shrug right away, they say: “No, no, we can’t take radical measures. We can’t leave him without dinner, it’s too cruel. ” The result – the children are hanging out in the streets, and what will happen to them is unknown. It can be much more cruel things than sitting once without dinner. Those who regret their children do not really care about them. If you think that the situation can be dangerous for the child – you need to insist that he does not leave the house.

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