In a good family, teenagers have no money problems. It’s normal to sit down at dinner and consult together on how to resolve this issue. A son or daughter tells how much and what they want, in the family circle everyone thinks what is relevant and what is not, then parents give money for really necessary purchases, and for the fact that adolescents just want it, they earn money themselves.
If you want a camera with good optics – excellent, but you need to earn money for it yourself. However, in a good family here parents can help and suggest where and how a teenager is better to earn extra money.
In many families, so that there is no constant negotiations, these money issues are resolved systematically: a deal is thought out and created. For example, this: “We have an agreement about spending (for fashionistas – it concerns mainly clothes!). What I need for life – for example, the first pair of winter boots – is bought by me without further discussion. That which is not a matter of prime necessity – the fifth pair of summer boots – if you “really, really want it, then it’s given for your birthday! And what you want, but not really, then it’s bought equally for all family members when finances allow.” Continue reading
I became convinced that the best way to give yourself into complete and undivided possession of your child is to set certain hours that you will spend alone with him. You may have thought about how difficult it is. And it is really difficult. To find time to be alone with a teenager, disconnecting from all worries – this I consider the most difficult of parental responsibilities. She cannot be ignored – it takes a long time to be a good parent.
However, finding free time in our hyperdynamic age is also not easy because a teenager has many other interests that parents have to compete with. All this only confirms the fact that the undivided attention of parents is extremely necessary for adolescents, especially given the bad influence from the outside, which today is stronger than ever. Continue reading
Now quite often what is called a role change occurs when parents expect the child to fill their emotional vacuum, lack of sincere cordial communication. Although this can happen in any family, it is most often found in single-parent families.
Some single parents establish relationships with their teens similar to trusting relationships between friends or colleagues. This is because they have no one to share their adult problems with.
Due to loneliness, dissatisfaction, depression or other problems, single parents sometimes simply can not treat their teens as peers. They want to entrust their children with personal problems that they are not yet ready to comprehend. Such parents strive to become “best friends” of their children, instead of establishing normal relationships for them. Continue reading