Rules for a child of 8-12 years old
Agreement with Katyusha This agreement is signed between children and adults with the goal of both maintaining peace and love in the family, and for the formation of useful and…

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6 years: readiness for school
By the age of six, boys begin to grow actively. For girls, this process begins much later - at nine to eleven years old, so at the age of six…

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The formation of a female style of behavior in high school students as one of the forms of aggressiveness prevention
Currently, several psychological and cultural phenomena have developed that can be qualified as undesirable deviations: firstly, it is the obvious and increasingly increasing masculinization of girls and the feminization of…

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Since my friend is doing better, I will not!

One day, my son (8 years old) returned from swimming training in a gloomy mood. I began to ask questions and found out that the whole thing was in a friend. A friend achieved some outstanding results during training. The coach praised a friend. My son in that training was not even able to get close to the success of a friend. This was a real blow to his son.
As a result, the child made the following conclusion: I won’t go swimming anymore. It’s unpleasant to listen to the coach praising someone, and not you. A friend in everything is better than me, oh why so. How miserable I am, etc.

I confess that I reacted incorrectly at first. I got hooked on the topic of envy. I began to convince my son that “your friend is not better in everything,” that you will succeed too. The son listened to it all with a Continue reading

Raising a boy

Boys and girls are different initially. Since childhood, girls prefer to play with dolls, outfits and relationships, boys are more interested in cars, construct something and fight. You can, of course, raise a girl from a boy, but – why? Probably a man should be raised from a boy. A real man. But what is needed for this? How to do this, given that today there are a lot of like men, weak-willed, irresponsible and indecisive, ready to throw all the problems onto women’s shoulders?

A man does not grow out of a boy by himself, and maternal love alone is not enough to form masculine traits in a boy. A boy grows up as a man when he 1) sees a model of male behavior next to him, 2) when he is raised in a manly manner, according to “male patterns”, and 3) when a man is raised from him, not a rag. Continue reading

How to turn a teenager into a man

It was 1993. At that time I was renting a 2-room apartment in which we lived with my youngest son, Ilya, who was twelve years old. The eldest son studied at a music school and lived in another city, often coming for the weekend. Then I had good opportunities in the implementation of new knowledge on the education of the youngest son.

He studied poorly, but thanks to his good memory and quick wits, he managed to finish a quarter without twos. And taking into account the transitional age and its difficult nature, I decided to focus more on the formation of masculine qualities.

I realized that you can bring up without prohibitions and punishments, the main thing is to transfer the desired freedom to a teenager along with responsibility. For this, I set myself the task: to learn not to emotionally respond to any tricks of my son, that is, to maintain complete inner calm. Only six months later, I coped with this task. This was necessary to Continue reading

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3.5 years: communication skill
Starting from 3.5 years for a harmonious development, a child just needs contacts not only with adults, but also with peers. It is in interaction with other children that the…

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5 years: we play and make plans
Children at the age of five are actively growing up. The child stretches out like a young tree, with almost no recovery: everything goes into the development of the skeleton…

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Home schooling: pros and cons
In my time, all first graders were still “automatically” credited in October, and then they began to appeal to their “October conscience”, etc. Towards the end of the first grade,…

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4 years: why time
The child is still physically active and already has a good enough control over his body: he runs perfectly, jumps, walks the curb, keeping his balance, hanging on the horizontal…

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