Raising a boy, raising a girl
Let's ask a question: if the boys have so many different deviations, if there are a lot of twosomes and difficult to educate among them, then why are almost all…

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3.5 years: communication skill
Starting from 3.5 years for a harmonious development, a child just needs contacts not only with adults, but also with peers. It is in interaction with other children that the…

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INCOMPLETE FAMILIES
In a survey conducted in America in 1989, it turned out that 26% of children under the age of 18 live with one parent. And this figure is growing rapidly.…

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Since my friend is doing better, I will not!

One day, my son (8 years old) returned from swimming training in a gloomy mood. I began to ask questions and found out that the whole thing was in a friend. A friend achieved some outstanding results during training. The coach praised a friend. My son in that training was not even able to get close to the success of a friend. This was a real blow to his son.
As a result, the child made the following conclusion: I won’t go swimming anymore. It’s unpleasant to listen to the coach praising someone, and not you. A friend in everything is better than me, oh why so. How miserable I am, etc.

I confess that I reacted incorrectly at first. I got hooked on the topic of envy. I began to convince my son that “your friend is not better in everything,” that you will succeed too. The son listened to it all with a Continue reading

Raising a boy

Boys and girls are different initially. Since childhood, girls prefer to play with dolls, outfits and relationships, boys are more interested in cars, construct something and fight. You can, of course, raise a girl from a boy, but – why? Probably a man should be raised from a boy. A real man. But what is needed for this? How to do this, given that today there are a lot of like men, weak-willed, irresponsible and indecisive, ready to throw all the problems onto women’s shoulders?

A man does not grow out of a boy by himself, and maternal love alone is not enough to form masculine traits in a boy. A boy grows up as a man when he 1) sees a model of male behavior next to him, 2) when he is raised in a manly manner, according to “male patterns”, and 3) when a man is raised from him, not a rag. Continue reading

How to turn a teenager into a man

It was 1993. At that time I was renting a 2-room apartment in which we lived with my youngest son, Ilya, who was twelve years old. The eldest son studied at a music school and lived in another city, often coming for the weekend. Then I had good opportunities in the implementation of new knowledge on the education of the youngest son.

He studied poorly, but thanks to his good memory and quick wits, he managed to finish a quarter without twos. And taking into account the transitional age and its difficult nature, I decided to focus more on the formation of masculine qualities.

I realized that you can bring up without prohibitions and punishments, the main thing is to transfer the desired freedom to a teenager along with responsibility. For this, I set myself the task: to learn not to emotionally respond to any tricks of my son, that is, to maintain complete inner calm. Only six months later, I coped with this task. This was necessary to Continue reading

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Transitional age
“I can't believe she did this,” Mrs. Batten begins the sad story of her family. “She was such a good girl, she never complained, she never created problems for us.”…

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Adolescence: what should parents do?
Adolescence ... To pass it, you have to sweat a lot for both parents and children - all the more so since they no longer like to be considered children.…

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Since my friend is doing better, I will not!
One day, my son (8 years old) returned from swimming training in a gloomy mood. I began to ask questions and found out that the whole thing was in a…

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3.5 years: communication skill
Starting from 3.5 years for a harmonious development, a child just needs contacts not only with adults, but also with peers. It is in interaction with other children that the…

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