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Home schooling: pros and cons

In my time, all first graders were still “automatically” credited in October, and then they began to appeal to their “October conscience”, etc. Towards the end of the first grade, my son realized that no one asked him if he wanted to be October. He began to ask me questions. And after the summer holidays (at the beginning of the second grade) he announced to the teacher that he was “leaving October”. The school began to panic.

At home, my son and I quite often told each other about our news (on the principle of “what was interesting today”). And I began to notice that in his stories about school too often situations of this type were mentioned: “Today I started reading such an interesting book – in mathematics.” Or: “Today I began to write the score of my new symphony – on history.” Or: “But Petya, it turns out, plays chess very well – we managed to play a couple of games in geography.” I thought: why does he even go to school? To study? But in the lessons he does completely different things. To communicate? But this can be done outside the school.

A normal child, in addition to classmates, usually has many other friends: living in a neighboring house, visiting their parents, found where the child was engaged in some interesting business … If the child wants to talk, he will find friends independently from whether he goes to school. And if he does not want, then it is not necessary. On the contrary, one must rejoice that no one imposes communication on him when he feels the need to “withdraw into himself.”

Communication at home is usually more complete than at school. The child gets used to freely discuss any topics, express his thoughts, ponder the interlocutor’s thoughts, agree with them or object, pick up weighty arguments in a dispute … At home, he often has to communicate with those older than him and “knows” better, better, more fully . And the child has to “pull up” to the level of normal adult communication. He gets used to respect the interlocutor and build a dialogue depending on the situation …

When I say that no one “sits” with my children, doing “lessons” with them, they simply do not believe me. Think it’s bravado. However, I am sure that any normal child has a thirst for knowledge (remember: from the first years of his life he wonders how many legs a crocodile has, why an ostrich does not fly, what ice is made of, where clouds fly, because this is exactly what he could to learn from school books, if I perceived them simply as “books”). But when he goes to school, there they begin this craving slowly but surely to kill. Instead of knowledge, the ability to count the required number of cells from the left edge of the notebook is imposed on him. At school, knowledge, if acquired, is contrary to the learning system. And at home they are absorbed easily and without stress.

In the process of home schooling, we realized that a child can have a “vacation” 10 months a year (that is, do what he is really interested in), and in 2 months pass the next class program and pass the necessary exams. And one more observation: a person who has not sat for 10 years on a school bench is noticeably different from others. There is something in him … As one teacher said about my child – a “pathological feeling of freedom.”

1. As I understand you!
A few years ago, I would have subscribed to every word of the article. Home schooling? Yes! Save the kids from school! Home birth? Yes! We will save mothers from the state maternity hospital, evil nurses and doctors who may be mistaken! Refusal of vaccinations? Yes! Protect our babies from the penetration of poisonous vaccines!
Now I would no longer be able to “break stereotypes” and “oppose the system” with such joy and confidence. I’m sitting thinking.

2. What am I thinking about?
I think that not all parents and children are suitable at home.
Parents must be very wise and responsible. Be able to organize both yourself and the children. Are there many among us?
Suppose my friends decided to switch to home schooling. They tell me how long they made such a decision and why. I know that they have a training and monitoring plan. Their children (middle school age) are happy that they can keep up with the pool, chess, and programming lessons. Mom does not work and enjoys the opportunity to give her children knowledge and discover the world.
For this family I am calm.
There may be another case. Suppose I hear that they want to “save the child from the school system’s grinding personality,” they recall, “What stress did we experience from the ridicule of classmates and what boredom we had on excursions with the class? Never in my life was it useful! The ability to solve equations in the store is also not needed – we use four arithmetic operations! ” At the same time, the children rejoice: “Hurray! No need to go to school!”
Friends, I will be seriously upset. In my opinion, these are not the reasons that reasonable people operate on. Meanwhile, there are many similar arguments in the home-based forums.

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