The formation of a female style of behavior in high school students as one of the forms of aggressiveness prevention
Currently, several psychological and cultural phenomena have developed that can be qualified as undesirable deviations:
firstly, it is the obvious and increasingly increasing masculinization of girls and the feminization of boys;
secondly, the emergence of an increasing number of extreme, undesirable behaviors of teenage high school students: anxiety is caused not only by progressive estrangement, increased anxiety, spiritual emptiness, but also cruelty, aggressiveness;
thirdly, the aggravation of the problem of loneliness at a young age and the instability of marital relations in young families.
All this is most acutely manifested at the turn of the transition of a child from childhood to adulthood – in adolescence. The microenvironment in which the modern teenager revolves is very unfavorable. To one degree or another, he encounters various forms of deviant behavior both on the way to school, and in the yard, and in public places, and even at home (in the family), and at school. A particularly unfavorable situation leading to deviations in the sphere of morality and behavior is the liberation from traditional norms and values, the absence of firm patterns of behavior and moral boundaries, the weakening of social control, which contributes to the growth of deviant and self-destructive behavior in the teenage environment.
The misunderstood ideals imposed by the modern “survival society” stereotypes forced, for example, a woman to uphold and achieve purely male values for herself, thereby causing a deviation in the development of the psychological sex and the formation of gender identity. Historically, Russian women, to a greater extent than Westerners, sought not only in physical parameters to catch up with men (the infamous TV ads used to be where elderly women in orange vests of railway workers put railway sleepers, except for foreigners, at that time did not seem shocking), but also to adopt the male type of behavior, to master the male attitude to the world. During personal conversations, current high school students call such traits as masculinity, determination, physical strength, independence, self-confidence, activity, and the ability to “give back” desirable in women. These traits (traditionally masculine), being in themselves very worthy, clearly dominate traditionally feminine.
The process of feminization of the male sex and masculinization of the female sex has widely affected all aspects of our life, but it is especially pronounced in the modern family, where children learn their roles. They acquire their first knowledge of aggressive behavior patterns in the family as well. As noted by R. Baron and D. Richardson, the family can simultaneously demonstrate models of aggressive behavior and provide its reinforcement. At school, this process is only exacerbated:
girls of elementary grades are ahead of boys in their development by an average of 2.5 years and cannot see their last defenders, therefore they demonstrate a discriminatory relationship with them. Observations of recent years allow us to note that more and more girls speak about their peers in such words as “morons” or “suckers”, and make aggressive attacks on classmates. A commonplace was the complaints of boys ‘parents that their children were offended and beaten by girls at school, which in turn gives rise to a protective type of boys’ behavior that leads to deepening interpersonal conflicts, which makes it possible to manifest mutual verbal or physical aggression;
the main educational burden in the family in our time is most often borne by a woman, using forceful methods of educational influence on children as well (observations when attending parents’ meetings at school showed that the presence of fathers is extremely rare);
The teaching staff of our schools consists mainly of women, often forced, unwilling to be successful teachers to take on the male role as well (firm hand).
Thus, the girls master the male “power” style of conflict resolution, which later creates fertile ground for deviant behavior. In adolescence, social deviations of aggressive orientation continue to grow and manifest themselves in actions directed against the person (insult, hooliganism, beatings), and the scope of power intervention of teenage girls goes beyond the school class, due to age-related characteristics. Along with the process of mastering new social roles, high school girls are also mastering new ways of clarifying interpersonal relationships. In the statistics of teenage fights, girls are becoming more and more defendants, and the motive for such fights, according to the participants themselves, is to protect their own honor and dignity from the slander and slander of their once close friends.
We are dealing with misunderstood sex roles. There is such a thing as a social sexual role, that is, the role that people play every day as men and women.