Parenting a girl
How to raise a girl? The question is important and not simple. In the upbringing of the girl there are two lines: the general line and the special line. The general line does not distinguish whether you are raising a boy or a girl: in any case, there are things in common, namely the upbringing of a healthy and developed child, a harmonious and thinking person. But this article is about a special line in education, namely, what special needs to be known and taken into account when raising a girl as a future woman, as a future wife and mother. If this is important to you, I invite you to think about it together.
Health and Physical Development
Since girls are often brought up by mothers, they feel sorry for girls, and this is the main mistake. Smart mothers are not afraid to temper girls as well as boys, that is, from childhood, a minimum of clothes, more movements and pouring ice water (the option is a contrast shower). Do not be afraid: just the girls who are brought up in the heat and “no matter what happens” get caught. Pouring cold water gives quenching and excellent vigor, but if it conflicts with long hair and generally with a hairstyle, look for compromises.
A lively and peppy girl with a slim and athletic figure has more chances for an excellent family and for success in life, so sport is a must. It is advisable to choose one that is related to outdoor activities and physical activity – running, cycling, roller skating, and figure skating and skiing in winter. Important: in any sport, a girl needs not strength, but three other things, namely: a) flexibility, b) general coordination of movements (dexterous hands) and c) grace, beauty and smooth movements. Therefore, from power loads – we swing the press and do squats, but we replace the horizontal bar with push-ups.
Swimming is very good for health, but with professional training, girls have completely masculine shoulders, which is not quite feminine. For the same reason, rhythmic gymnastics is more useful than sports gymnastics. Tennis is useful, big and small, yoga and fitness are good, while team sports are more for guys, girls and individuals are more useful for individual and pair dances. Once again: the most important and absolutely obligatory sport for any girl is dancing. Dancing, dancing, dancing! You can start with folk dances, continue with any modern, but sooner or later experience in pair dances is required, at least hustle (the simplest and most affordable) and salsa (a little richer). In pair dances, the fear of the partner’s body disappears, in dances you can stand close and take by the hand, which is not easy for teenagers. If hustle is a minimum program, then ballroom dancing and sports dancing are already the world of princesses.
When choosing a specific sports section or dance studio, it is usually more important to pay attention not to a specific sport or dance variety, but to what kind of people are there and what is the communication style there, first of all, what is the coach’s culture. A high-quality, worthy trainer teaches not so much a specific sport or dance, he teaches attitude to people and life. If you find such a coach – you can be calm. However, for different ages, girls need to choose different trainers …
Our daughter should not be a slut, so we teach the daughter to order. Three absolutely necessary things in the morning: to remove the bed, put your hair in order, get dressed. Regarding the bed, our grandmothers knew well: who has a mess on the bed, who (in that) has a mess in life. To remove the bed (first ventilate, and then remove) – only two minutes in time, and the room becomes beautiful and there is a feeling of comfort. Similarly, comb your hair and put your hair in order – this includes collecting your thoughts, collecting all of yourself. An unkempt girl feels and behaves messy: can you imagine an unkempt queen? And getting dressed is completing putting yourself in order. The princess doesn’t allow herself to go in the morning, all the more so having breakfast in a crumpled T-shirt or a nightie. Clothing is part of our mood, so it is important to dress for the task of a particular morning and day.
By the way, about shoes: it’s good for little girls to run barefoot, older girls and older women tight-fitting slippers. Throw away all soft spanking, in them the most collected girl quickly turns into a disassembled disgrace.
Little mistress of any home
From early childhood, we teach our daughter the skills of a housewife. It’s wrong if mom is in the kitchen, and daughter plays her games. That’s right, if the daughter’s favorite game is helping her mother in the kitchen. The main difficulty here is usually in the mother: it’s easier for her to cook everything herself than to call her daughter and explain everything, correcting her mistakes … But if the mother thinks about the future of her daughter, by the age of twelve she may well achieve what to “feed everyone” no longer she answers, but a daughter. It’s wrong when mom cooks and daughter helps. It’s right when the daughter cooks, and the mother helps her: she continues to teach her to cook tasty, to cover beautifully, to do everything easily, not to worry in vain and to attract all who can help her to help.