It was 1993. At that time I was renting a 2-room apartment in which we lived with my youngest son, Ilya, who was twelve years old. The eldest son studied at a music school and lived in another city, often coming for the weekend. Then I had good opportunities in the implementation of new knowledge on the education of the youngest son.
He studied poorly, but thanks to his good memory and quick wits, he managed to finish a quarter without twos. And taking into account the transitional age and its difficult nature, I decided to focus more on the formation of masculine qualities.
I realized that you can bring up without prohibitions and punishments, the main thing is to transfer the desired freedom to a teenager along with responsibility. For this, I set myself the task: to learn not to emotionally respond to any tricks of my son, that is, to maintain complete inner calm. Only six months later, I coped with this task. This was necessary to Continue reading
In my time, all first graders were still “automatically” credited in October, and then they began to appeal to their “October conscience”, etc. Towards the end of the first grade, my son realized that no one asked him if he wanted to be October. He began to ask me questions. And after the summer holidays (at the beginning of the second grade) he announced to the teacher that he was “leaving October”. The school began to panic.
At home, my son and I quite often told each other about our news (on the principle of “what was interesting today”). And I began to notice that in his stories about school too often situations of this type were mentioned: “Today I started reading such an interesting book – in mathematics.” Or: “Today I began to write the score of my new symphony – on history.” Or: “But Petya, it turns out, plays chess very well – we managed to play a couple of games in geography.” I thought: why does he even go to school? To study? But in the lessons he does completely different things. To Continue reading
In a good family, teenagers have no money problems. It’s normal to sit down at dinner and consult together on how to resolve this issue. A son or daughter tells how much and what they want, in the family circle everyone thinks what is relevant and what is not, then parents give money for really necessary purchases, and for the fact that adolescents just want it, they earn money themselves.
If you want a camera with good optics – excellent, but you need to earn money for it yourself. However, in a good family here parents can help and suggest where and how a teenager is better to earn extra money.
In many families, so that there is no constant negotiations, these money issues are resolved systematically: a deal is thought out and created. For example, this: “We have an agreement about spending (for fashionistas – it concerns mainly clothes!). What I need for life – for example, the first pair of winter boots – is bought by me without further discussion. That which is not a matter of prime necessity – the fifth pair of summer boots – if you “really, really want it, then it’s given for your birthday! And what you want, but not really, then it’s bought equally for all family members when finances allow.” Continue reading