About the format, or What fate will we give our children?
Like any habits, good habits in children are developed through repetitions with positive reinforcement, and usually a period of 20 to 40 days is sufficient. However, situations are not uncommon…

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About the format, or What fate will we give our children?
Like any habits, good habits in children are developed through repetitions with positive reinforcement, and usually a period of 20 to 40 days is sufficient. However, situations are not uncommon…

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To the son of 19, sits on mum's neck
This is a learning situation for students of the University of Practical Psychology. Imagine that a woman came to you as a consultant. Alla, 40 years old. The husband died…

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the prerequisites

How to turn a teenager into a man

It was 1993. At that time I was renting a 2-room apartment in which we lived with my youngest son, Ilya, who was twelve years old. The eldest son studied at a music school and lived in another city, often coming for the weekend. Then I had good opportunities in the implementation of new knowledge on the education of the youngest son.

He studied poorly, but thanks to his good memory and quick wits, he managed to finish a quarter without twos. And taking into account the transitional age and its difficult nature, I decided to focus more on the formation of masculine qualities.

I realized that you can bring up without prohibitions and punishments, the main thing is to transfer the desired freedom to a teenager along with responsibility. For this, I set myself the task: to learn not to emotionally respond to any tricks of my son, that is, to maintain complete inner calm. Only six months later, I coped with this task. This was necessary to Continue reading

Home schooling: pros and cons

In my time, all first graders were still “automatically” credited in October, and then they began to appeal to their “October conscience”, etc. Towards the end of the first grade, my son realized that no one asked him if he wanted to be October. He began to ask me questions. And after the summer holidays (at the beginning of the second grade) he announced to the teacher that he was “leaving October”. The school began to panic.

At home, my son and I quite often told each other about our news (on the principle of “what was interesting today”). And I began to notice that in his stories about school too often situations of this type were mentioned: “Today I started reading such an interesting book – in mathematics.” Or: “Today I began to write the score of my new symphony – on history.” Or: “But Petya, it turns out, plays chess very well – we managed to play a couple of games in geography.” I thought: why does he even go to school? To study? But in the lessons he does completely different things. To Continue reading

Children’s tantrums: what to do with them?

Children sometimes throw tantrums: they fall to the floor, bang their hands and feet, destroy everything around. Where does this come from and what to do about it?

It is sometimes said that the hysteria of children is always a reaction to an adult, an answer to the fact that there is something terribly wrong in the relationship between an adult and a child. This is not entirely true, it is some exaggeration of the role of an adult.
A child is a creature not only reacting, not responding to one or another, correct or not, adult behavior. Thank God, children are very active, leading their game and policies towards adults. See → Continue reading

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Sex (teenager)
Life examples Porn Early sexual relationship Talking with a child about sex Masturbation My son (he is 9 years old) periodically masturbates. And when I suddenly go into the room…

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How to teach adult children of Love with a capital letter?
Not all parents love their children, at least not always, not in all situations the parents of their children love. It is a fact. But if we speak from the…

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CHANGE ROLE
Now quite often what is called a role change occurs when parents expect the child to fill their emotional vacuum, lack of sincere cordial communication. Although this can happen in…

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THE ROLE OF UNDERSTANDING IN THE FAMILY
These cases from my practice show that unregulated relationships between spouses cause problems in adolescents. Every teenager needs parents whose marriage is reliable, full of mutual respect and love. And…

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