To the twelve son: education of responsibility
After returning from the Air Force 2013, my 12-year-old son often repeated: “Positive, constructive, responsible” ... True, when I asked what he put into the concepts of “constructive” and “responsibility”,…

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4 years: why time
The child is still physically active and already has a good enough control over his body: he runs perfectly, jumps, walks the curb, keeping his balance, hanging on the horizontal…

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How to turn a teenager into a man
It was 1993. At that time I was renting a 2-room apartment in which we lived with my youngest son, Ilya, who was twelve years old. The eldest son studied…

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Features of the emotional sphere of boys and girls

A survey of educators and teachers regarding the individual characteristics of children’s behavioral characteristics makes it possible to consider that usually boys are more excitable, irritable, restless, impatient, restrained, intolerant, unsure of themselves and even more aggressive than girls. Apparently, in most cases this is true. However, it must be borne in mind that our vision of a child does not always objectively reflect what it really is.

We compared the characteristics given to the same child by parents (almost exclusively mothers, not fathers) and educators (also women). To our surprise, the discrepancies were very significant and different for boys and girls.

So, parents often consider boys to be unemotional when caregivers note their increased emotionality. At Continue reading

The formation of a female style of behavior in high school students as one of the forms of aggressiveness prevention

Currently, several psychological and cultural phenomena have developed that can be qualified as undesirable deviations:
firstly, it is the obvious and increasingly increasing masculinization of girls and the feminization of boys;
secondly, the emergence of an increasing number of extreme, undesirable behaviors of teenage high school students: anxiety is caused not only by progressive estrangement, increased anxiety, spiritual emptiness, but also cruelty, aggressiveness;
thirdly, the aggravation of the problem of loneliness at a young age and the instability of marital relations in young families.
All this is most acutely manifested at the turn of the transition of a child from childhood to adulthood – in adolescence. The microenvironment in which the modern teenager revolves is very unfavorable. To one degree or another, he encounters various forms of deviant behavior both on the way to school, and in the yard, and in public places, and even at home (in the family), and at school. A particularly unfavorable situation leading to deviations in the sphere of morality and behavior is the liberation from traditional norms and values, the absence of firm patterns of behavior and Continue reading

Raising a boy, raising a girl

Let’s ask a question: if the boys have so many different deviations, if there are a lot of twosomes and difficult to educate among them, then why are almost all the outstanding scientists, artists, writers, doctors, composers, designers – men? And why did so many great people do poorly in school? Probably, among the two-year-old boys there are many who will never be able to realize what nature has given them. Why?

Apparently, because we do not know how to teach boys. The learning strategy in both kindergarten and school is most often targeted at girls. Both girls and boys are taught more often than women: at home – mother and grandmother, in kindergarten – teacher (“a whiskered nanny” is, unfortunately, a pipe dream, Continue reading

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Psychological characteristics of boys and girls
Why nature is male and female But really, why? After all, once upon a time plants and simple animals did not have this: “he” and “she”. But at a certain…

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Parenting a girl: how to pave the way to female happiness
Autobiographical novel with historical dives The strange fate of this work of mine is at first just an article about the upbringing of a girl, then a historical excursion into…

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Home schooling: pros and cons
In my time, all first graders were still “automatically” credited in October, and then they began to appeal to their “October conscience”, etc. Towards the end of the first grade,…

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Spartan education
When there is a conversation about education, the famous catch phrase “Spartan education” is involuntarily recalled. What events is associated with this definition? Who needs Spartan education, and is it…

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