This is a learning situation for students of the University of Practical Psychology. Imagine that a woman came to you as a consultant.
Alla, 40 years old. The husband died 6 years ago. One brings up her son Artem, who is now 19 years old. He works at two jobs, very tired. He pays his son for college and a rented apartment. The son is used to being provided by his mother, and he is not going to get a job to help financially. He says that he still won’t work in his specialty, he doesn’t like the specialty (his mother forced me to enter). He studies poorly, spends most of his time playing computer games. At the same time, there is not enough money all the time. Continue reading
One day, my son (8 years old) returned from swimming training in a gloomy mood. I began to ask questions and found out that the whole thing was in a friend. A friend achieved some outstanding results during training. The coach praised a friend. My son in that training was not even able to get close to the success of a friend. This was a real blow to his son.
As a result, the child made the following conclusion: I won’t go swimming anymore. It’s unpleasant to listen to the coach praising someone, and not you. A friend in everything is better than me, oh why so. How miserable I am, etc.
I confess that I reacted incorrectly at first. I got hooked on the topic of envy. I began to convince my son that “your friend is not better in everything,” that you will succeed too. The son listened to it all with a Continue reading
A survey of educators and teachers regarding the individual characteristics of children’s behavioral characteristics makes it possible to consider that usually boys are more excitable, irritable, restless, impatient, restrained, intolerant, unsure of themselves and even more aggressive than girls. Apparently, in most cases this is true. However, it must be borne in mind that our vision of a child does not always objectively reflect what it really is.
We compared the characteristics given to the same child by parents (almost exclusively mothers, not fathers) and educators (also women). To our surprise, the discrepancies were very significant and different for boys and girls.
So, parents often consider boys to be unemotional when caregivers note their increased emotionality. At Continue reading