To the twelve son: education of responsibility
After returning from the Air Force 2013, my 12-year-old son often repeated: “Positive, constructive, responsible” ... True, when I asked what he put into the concepts of “constructive” and “responsibility”,…

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HOW TO DO IT?
I became convinced that the best way to give yourself into complete and undivided possession of your child is to set certain hours that you will spend alone with him.…

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Honey, nobody owes you anything
In 1966, investment analyst Harry Brown wrote a letter to his nine-year-old daughter for Christmas, which is still quoted. He explained to the girl that nothing in this world -…

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To the son of 19, sits on mum’s neck

This is a learning situation for students of the University of Practical Psychology. Imagine that a woman came to you as a consultant.

Alla, 40 years old. The husband died 6 years ago. One brings up her son Artem, who is now 19 years old. He works at two jobs, very tired. He pays his son for college and a rented apartment. The son is used to being provided by his mother, and he is not going to get a job to help financially. He says that he still won’t work in his specialty, he doesn’t like the specialty (his mother forced me to enter). He studies poorly, spends most of his time playing computer games. At the same time, there is not enough money all the time. Continue reading

Raising a boy

Boys and girls are different initially. Since childhood, girls prefer to play with dolls, outfits and relationships, boys are more interested in cars, construct something and fight. You can, of course, raise a girl from a boy, but – why? Probably a man should be raised from a boy. A real man. But what is needed for this? How to do this, given that today there are a lot of like men, weak-willed, irresponsible and indecisive, ready to throw all the problems onto women’s shoulders?

A man does not grow out of a boy by himself, and maternal love alone is not enough to form masculine traits in a boy. A boy grows up as a man when he 1) sees a model of male behavior next to him, 2) when he is raised in a manly manner, according to “male patterns”, and 3) when a man is raised from him, not a rag. Continue reading

If a child tests your strength …

The most obedient children from time to time necessarily check whether parents can – do not obey? The main type of check is a test of the parents’ resistance to a child’s attack, when the child suddenly stops obeying and actively insists on his desires. A child throws to parents – a challenge! If here to show the child a weakness – the child understands that parents can be replayed. And begins to use it.

J. Dobson writes: “I somehow had to talk with the mother of a very naughty thirteen-year-old boy who was scornful of the slightest hint of parental authority. He did not return home before two in the morning and defiantly ignored any demands from his mother. Assuming that This problem didn’t arise today, I Continue reading

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How to turn a teenager into a man
It was 1993. At that time I was renting a 2-room apartment in which we lived with my youngest son, Ilya, who was twelve years old. The eldest son studied…

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FAMILY INFLUENCE
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