This is a learning situation for students of the University of Practical Psychology. Imagine that a woman came to you as a consultant.
Alla, 40 years old. The husband died 6 years ago. One brings up her son Artem, who is now 19 years old. He works at two jobs, very tired. He pays his son for college and a rented apartment. The son is used to being provided by his mother, and he is not going to get a job to help financially. He says that he still won’t work in his specialty, he doesn’t like the specialty (his mother forced me to enter). He studies poorly, spends most of his time playing computer games. At the same time, there is not enough money all the time. Continue reading
Seldom cry boys whom parents taught in a difficult situation – to act. More often, those children who do not know what to do cry.
The boy fell, hit his knee hard and sits, rubs it. – “Poor thing, how painful it is for you, go I will regret you!” – Grandmother screamed, and the child burst into tears. When they regret, I want to cry and feel poor. Women love to take care of the little and the unhappy, love to regret, but the result of such a female education is a girl, not a boy.
Watch how the children behave when they hit something painfully during the game. Do they cry? – Yes, if Continue reading
After returning from the Air Force 2013, my 12-year-old son often repeated: “Positive, constructive, responsible” … True, when I asked what he put into the concepts of “constructive” and “responsibility”, I could not say anything intelligible. I had to deal with explanations. He nodded …
Six months have passed. He is already thirteen. To my surprise, he sometimes began to ask me a question: “Why did you tell me this, for what purpose?”
A few months ago, he once again made an attempt to agree on a possible option to purchase a tablet. Despite the fact that I categorically stated that I would not get him this gadget, he did not lose hope and Continue reading
One day, my son (8 years old) returned from swimming training in a gloomy mood. I began to ask questions and found out that the whole thing was in a friend. A friend achieved some outstanding results during training. The coach praised a friend. My son in that training was not even able to get close to the success of a friend. This was a real blow to his son.
As a result, the child made the following conclusion: I won’t go swimming anymore. It’s unpleasant to listen to the coach praising someone, and not you. A friend in everything is better than me, oh why so. How miserable I am, etc.
I confess that I reacted incorrectly at first. I got hooked on the topic of envy. I began to convince my son that “your friend is not better in everything,” that you will succeed too. The son listened to it all with a Continue reading
Boys and girls are different initially. Since childhood, girls prefer to play with dolls, outfits and relationships, boys are more interested in cars, construct something and fight. You can, of course, raise a girl from a boy, but – why? Probably a man should be raised from a boy. A real man. But what is needed for this? How to do this, given that today there are a lot of like men, weak-willed, irresponsible and indecisive, ready to throw all the problems onto women’s shoulders?
A man does not grow out of a boy by himself, and maternal love alone is not enough to form masculine traits in a boy. A boy grows up as a man when he 1) sees a model of male behavior next to him, 2) when he is raised in a manly manner, according to “male patterns”, and 3) when a man is raised from him, not a rag. Continue reading